When I watched "The Diary of a Mad Black Woman"

It was on a humid night 2 weeks ago, that i watched the very touching and refreshing "The Diary of a Mad Black Woman." Even as my eyes captured the romantic moments and my ears listened intently to those romantic words said by the cute guy to the faithful black woman that had been thrown out of her house by her cruel husband, memories of my previous relationship came flooding in.

"All you have to do get up and I'll take over from there," said the cute guy to the beautiful black woman...."On one condition, you have to be my wife." These were also the words of my ex when i told him i didn't like to drive. I wonder if he watched the movie before me, and those lines were not really his?...Nah, i believe he was sincere at that time.....Sweet memories, kept forever in my heart, although not meant to last.

Once when i was walking with a different guy, and my slippers gave way, he put his hand on the ground and told me to step on it, instead of on stepping on the rocky ground. And a mosquito bit me at that time as well. And this guy told me, " If I could, I won't even allow the mosqitoe to bite you." This guy wasn't as good with words as my ex, but his actions proved it all. And he even dusted my sandy feet with his bare hands.....Wow,I have really been blessed with sweet memories of touching moments!

Coming back to the movie, on a more serious account, there are many lessons to be learnt. The first one was about forgiveness. The beautiful, faithful black woman had been married to her husband for 18 years. He was her first and only love. She sacrificed so much of her life for him, put her mother in a home for the aged so that he could fulfill his Amerian dream and the list could go on. There was nothing she knew how to do by herself, as she had been living in luxury with her husband. But he, on the other hand, chose to have flings with other women, and filed for a divorce to be with an immoral women, and even reached the extent of beating and throwing his wife out of their house on the wedding anniversary day. Being as wealthy as he was, he was unwilling to give her anything at all: not wealth, not money, not even kindness. Yet, when he was in a life or death situation, it was this black woman that chose to give him a chance to live. When he was paralyzed, it was his wife that stood by him while the other woman took his wealth and left. Despite all the evil he had done to her, although she innitially showed bitteness and was mad, she ultimately chose to forgive and repayed him with love and kindness.

The next lesson i learnt is that "God has the power to show who god is" and "You shall reap what you sow". Those were the last words of the black woman before she was chased out of their mansion for nothing she deserved. The husband was a rich and successful lawyer, who thought he could have and do whatever he wanted. He was trying to play god. But he finally realized the truth in his wife's words when he almost lost his life, became wheelchair bound and the very woman he left his wife for, abandoned him. He truly reaped what he sowed.

And it is so true that pride comes before downfall. Just shortly before he was shot near his spine, in the hearing regarding the divorce with his wife, his wife said that her husband could keep all his wealth as long as he just paid for her mother's home expenses. She showed no greed at all although she could have taken the opportunity to take as much money and possessions from him through the divorce. He told he she made a smart choice. He was greedy, trying to keep all his wealth from her, but in the end he nearly lost his life and his wealth was taken by the other woman whom he naively thought, loved him.

The third lesson i learnt was "don't open another door when you have not shut the previous one". The black woman's mother gave her this piece of advice when she found out that her daughter had fallen in love with the cute gentlemen although she had not yet legally divorced her husband. Even as i watched the movie, i realized that that piece of advice was for me and my ex...I had actually opened another door when the the previous one was still open, and so did my ex. The black woman did the right thing. She ended the relationship with the cute gentlemen while she cared for her helpless husband till she officially divorced him. Yes, the cute gentlemen had been hurt terribly by her returing to her husband that had been so cruel to her when he had personally showered her with so much love. But at the right time, the beautiful black woman returned to the cute gentlemen as she realized it was him that she loved.

The lesson that can be learnt from her ex-husband is that if you don't know how to treasure what you have, you will only realize its value once it's gone. The black woman was a good woman, a beautiful person who had truly loved him and him alone, all her married life. But he did not appreciate it, and lost her in the end.

And everything happens for a reason. The black woman was able to feel and experience sincere love and intimacy from the cute gentleman because her husband never gave it to her. It was something that she gave wholeheartedly to her husband but never received from him.

Another lesson can be learnt from another couple. The cousin of the black woman. He was married to a drug addict but he loved her despite all that, helped her and accepted her again in the end. True love is unconditional.

I also picked up something else from the strong charactered mother of the black woman; the woman who taught her daughter to forgive also portrayed forgiveness herself. It was evident that the daughter had lost link with her mother and family ever since she married her husband. Only when she was chased out of her house did she look for her family as she had nowhere else to turn to. And her mother, who had been sent to a home for the aged, welcomed her with open arms- with no bitterness or grudge against her daughter at all. She also proclaimed with optimism that nothing in the world can make he happy or sad because Jesus is with her and that is all that matters. Her positive outlook of life influenced her daughter to get on with her life when all hope seemed lost.

As for her grandmother, she also gave the beautiful black woman motivation to stand up on her own feet and rise up above her circumstances, as hopeless as they seemed. The girl who thought there was nothing she knew how to do finally pieced herself together and worked as a waitress, metamorphisizing into an independent woman.

"The Diary of a Mad Black Woman".....one movie that truly touched my heart and gave me many lessons to learn....My dear friends, you really should watch it, if u have not...Christians esspecially, you will love it!:)

For those of you who have watched the movie, you can post your comments to share how you feel about it. Others are free to post any opinions at all. Take care and God bless you always!!!!